Fuck it...I'm tired and cranky and...all that crap...so...Upcoming Friends-List Review

[doniago]

If you a) haven't made a "significant" comment since May 1, b) _have_ posted yourself since May 1, and c) want to be assured of staying on my Friends list beyond this weekend, then please d) comment to this entry and e) be aware that I'm kind of bothered by the lack of contact lately.

Note that removal from my friends list does NOT constitute me not caring about you, but DOES constitute a sign that we need to work on whatever friendship we have, as well as a sign that I don't think you've been particularly paying attention to this.

Point of cliarification- I'm especially troubled by situations where I feel I'm putting a lot of time and energy into caring about someone, in the form of commenting on posts where they're emotionally troubled...and yet, they don't reciprocate. If you want me to keep being there for you, get off your ass and be there for me once in a while.

Again, this post is being written in a yucky emotional state. Maybe I'll cheer up and rethink it later.

Comments

[gldm.livejournal.com]

I'm not sure when the last time I left you a comment is, but I have been reading your entries.

[doniago.livejournal.com]

Um...I took you off my Friends list back at the beginning of the year, after a similarly crappy phase led to a similar friends-review.

If you want to try again, we could do that. But I'm wary.

[gldm.livejournal.com]

It's up to you. I liked talking to you in person but I found it hard to find things in common online. I've grown distant with most of my friends since moving to south africa because I can't get online during most of the hours when people are awake and not at work there.

[doniago.livejournal.com]

I'm willing to give it another go, though I wouldn't color myself hopeful. But then, right now I'm more pissed off in general than anything else.

Rebooted.

[nomorehating.livejournal.com]

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[lissa76.livejournal.com]

Hey, you ok babe? You seem almost as emotional as I was last week. I tore apart a co-manager and almost beat the snot out of the other seafood clerk at work.... well, you know I love ya... even though I don't think I've seen you in almost 10 years.... you need to vent, you have my number.... call me :) ((((((((HUG))))))))

[doniago.livejournal.com]

(smiles a bit, and hugs back) I'm fine mostly. Thank you for asking. Considering how much time we've been out of touch, you've been a really good friend.

I'm just tired of the 1-5 people whose journals I really pay attention to and comment on, but who never comment on mine. If I'm never saying anything, it would be hypocritical for me to expect comments in turn, but when I'm putting myself out there for someone, it would be nice if they reciprocated.

Or, bluntly- I'm tired of feeling and expressing sympathy for people who won't get off their asses to do it for me.

I'd rather have only one LJ friend who commented reliably than 50 friends who I almost never hear from.

Awwww Baby, Why you gotta be like that?

[blood-orchid.livejournal.com]

Yikes! It seems that you are as fed up as I am with people and things. Sighs,,, at least you know I read your posts,,, If we're not IM-ing, then at least I get to read your posts and find out what kind of shit your getting yourself into. Call me or message me if you need to vent.... lots of loving sent your way...cheer up damn you.

Re: Awwww Baby, Why you gotta be like that?

[doniago.livejournal.com]

Hey you. (hug)

Yeah, you're definitely not one of the people pissing me off. (chuckle)

I think it was mostly just a mood, though the underlying reasons are still a bit valid.

Re: Awwww Baby, Why you gotta be like that?

[nomorehating.livejournal.com]

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[neith32.livejournal.com]

Hoestly, I'm surprised I've made it this long on your 'other' friends list as it is.

It's rather hard to comment on your journal when I only get, oooh, say one or two posts from you in a month or more.

[doniago.livejournal.com]

You're not on any Friends list currently. This was a public post.

Conversely, I'm surprised you still list me as a Friend.

I don't exactly know what you were expecting. You're more than happy to continue doing something online that you _know_ makes it very hard for me to believe you particularly care about me, and you haven't exactly done anything on other fronts to make me believe that you care in spite of your conduct online.

I thought I was going to have more to say about this, but I think I just summed it up nicely.

If you want any kind of significant relationship with me again, I'm open to discussing it, though I fear it will come down to exactly the same issues it has in the past.

[neith32.livejournal.com]

I don't expect anything from you anymore. This was merely an idle comment that I'd thought I'd toss out. Seeing how you're complaining that no one comments on your journal, I thought, given the chance to actually be able to, that I would do just that. Comment.

Twice now even. Wow.

[doniago.livejournal.com]

Well...I guess that's that, then.

If you don't expect anything from me, you at least showed me that I shouldn't expect anything from you.

[niko-winterset.livejournal.com]

*Waves* Hi.

I would say we are friends elsewhere or at least well on our way in that direction. Friends here to if you want. I read my friends journals daily and reply when I feel I can help, offer advice or simply put a smile on somefurs muzzle.

I'm a good pony I promise.

Can I stay? Huh? Huh? Can I please? :)

Storm_Cloud

[24blackbirds.livejournal.com]

Totally understood. You're right, people have to act like they care. Lately it's difficult for me because a shitload of people that I thought were great friends have been acting like anything but. You are one of the few who does act like a friend.

[bramblewolf.livejournal.com]

eh, i can understand that..
but some like me, have been way too busy..
I'm not gunna go out of my way or force anythin...just wanted to let you know, you know to make sure you aren't one of those people who think the world revolves around them..

[doniago.livejournal.com]

Busy I can understand, especially if there's at least minimal contact while it's occurring.

Too busy to say _anything_ for (checks original date of post) 2 months? I'm sorry, but that's a stretch. And if someone is going to claim that they have been _that_ busy, I don't think it would be too unreasonable of me to wonder what exactly they were doing to be so busy.

I don't think the world revolves around me, but I do think that, in this day and age, one is justified in expecting some level of _minimal_ contact. Even the occasional 'Hi, I miss you,' is orders of magnitude better than nothing at all.

Since you hadn't responded to me the last few times I tried speaking with you, and didn't express any interest in meeting at AC, I figured you weren't particularly interested in developing any sort of friendship. If I'm wrong about that, you can let me know.

[bramblewolf.livejournal.com]

you've given me no reason to pursue a friendship.

[doniago.livejournal.com]

I'm not sure what reason I could provide you with other than interest.

I could say the same, though.

[nomorehating.livejournal.com]

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